He is not the only pebble on the beach!
This is about love as fondness, love as dependence love as suffering, which can be as strong and destructive as drugs and alcohol.
When does love become a kind of dependence? When a person is so much important to you and necessary for you as if you breathe only this person instead of air, and it seems to you, that you will be out of breath, if he or she will not be beside you. When your dating relationships become the sense of your life, and everything else becomes boring and uninteresting.
When he and his problems turn into a topic for all your conversations with your friends. When continuation of dating starts affecting your and maybe your relatives' emotional or physical state, however you continue to cling to these relations. If these signs are familiar to you, let's try think of their reasons and ways to get rid of painful relationships like that.
For many people such love is a repeating theme in life. To some people it seems to be the only possible way to love; they are sure that intimate relations should be nothing but such ones. On the other hand, if somebody is always having bad luck in love, and one unfortunate love is always replacing another, then the thing is that these people are inclined for a type of relations. You are likely to guess, that the reasons for such obsession lay not only in love, but also in fear.
Is it hopeless or not? Are you condemned to suffering eternally, if you have already had bad luck before? Of course, you aren't. Remember, that normal relations are mutual relations. Besides, it would be advisable for you, if you can discuss the problems with an expert - psychologist, it will give you a chance to get rid of an idea to achieve unachievable purposes.
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