Let us talk about dating and the problem of trusting
One of my friends shared with me some dating problems he faced the other day and asked for advice. The thing is he doubted whether to trust his loved girl-friend or not. His story was the following one. The girl he is dating at the moment calls him every day and is flirty and affectionate when they're together. She tries to get him to talk about how much he likes her. (But he doesn't like to do that. She doesn't show how much she likes him, either, incidentally.) She asks him to do something with her practically every day, and expresses disappointment when he tells her he already has plans.
The problem lies with trust. She asked if he trusted her, and he told her that he did because she's never given him any reason not to. But he wasn't exactly telling the truth, because he thought that maybe she's testing him, or maybe it was just his imagination, he said; but lately he has picked up some inconsistencies in her behavior. He hasn't made an issue out of any of this, but he gave me a few examples of what he has noticed:
"She told me that she didn't want to attend a wedding she was invited to, but when I left town for a weekend fishing trip, she went to the wedding anyway.
One night she was three hours late coming over for a date we had. I called her house, got no answer, and the phone beeped and disconnected. She called later (at midnight), apologized, and said that she fell asleep. She said that she accidentally shut off the answering machine the night before. (I let her know that I was upset about her tardiness, but didn't make a huge deal out of it.)"
As you can see the question is if he is I reading too much into these incidents, or should he be concerned? Should he press for explanations?
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