A couple of words about the role of mistakes we make and their role as far as the dating is concerned
To begin with it is necessary to try to give an answer to the question whether the role of experience (no matter positive or negative) in our life is really significant or not? Could we ever do without any experience?
Shall a person that has no experience or just doesn't want to take any experience into consideration be regarded as a not very clever one? People are naive till they gain some knowledge with the help of their experience by all accounts.
On the other hand, who said that a naive person isn't a clever one and doesn't deserve respect at all? Moreover, under some circumstances only a naive person is able to experience certain feelings in a proper way. While we are on the subject, a naive person can be compared with a "clear" person that is the most sincere and frank.
It goes without saying that the situation with dating reminds the same. Some people seem to overestimate the role of experience when saying that everyone must learn only by their own mistakes. Very often such people happen to get disappointed in friendship, love and things like that after they had some bitter dating experience.
And in the future it fears them to trust others and to start some new love relationship. They even fear to think what may happen let alone an attempt to start dating again. Consequently, they live the rest of their lives without experiencing any feelings, both unpleasant and pleasant any more. The life of a person that thinks like that may become monotonous and dull. Does it make any sense to always be afraid of the possibility to repeat a previous mistake again? Maybe it's time to forget the things we "know from our experience" and to enjoy feelings as if we experienced everything for the first time in our life?
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