Men's view
Having a correspondence with someone you almost do not know seems very tempting. I suppose that almost everyone tries it at least once. Correspondence with a person who has a very interesting personality, hopes for romantic meetings that will remain just hopes - these are the things you can get here.
What are men trying to find in such type of relations? Why are they dreaming of international pen pals?
First of all they would like to find a reliable and understanding partner who knows all their desires and is ready to make them come true.
Secondly they would like to find out the lady's real desires.
Besides, there is one more reason. Maybe this one is the most important things - all men want the situation to be absolutely clear.
Just like women men sometimes are very shy with those women with whom they have long-term relations. That is why men would like to know for sure if they will have sex with the lady (at least some day) or not (or the man himself does not want it and will never let it happen). In this case the relations can be built on different bases. And in the relations with international pen pals this distinctness may be even more important than in real meetings. Well, if the international pen pals are communicating through the e-mail too sincerely they can probably have some serious problems during a personal meeting. You know when you write letters you have time to think everything over and in real life the person can turn out to be absolutely different. When you meet someone you have corresponded with you will (maybe subconsciously) feel embarrassed because of your letters and it will consequently course the embarrassment of your interlocutor. If you and your international pen pals decide beforehand that there will be no personal dates, you can feel absolutely free writing letters to each other. You can do whatever you want. These relations can last as long as you wish and as a rule this type of relations lasts longer than in real life. The only thing that matters here that each of the international pen pans gets satisfaction from the correspondence. You can solve your problems or achieve your aims. Each type of relations has its strong points.
Very often women try to save the relations with their international pen pals, they give men hope for future meetings though they know for sure that they will never meet. They think that if they say directly that there is no place for this person in their real life they will have to part. So the woman starts telling lies in her letters, asking to delay their meeting.
In this case after a while it is absolutely natural for a man to start insisting on their personal meeting. They are waiting for this mysterious tomorrow to come. But it never comes. And the flow of letters stops little by little.
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