International pen pals - what to write about?
Many women, willing to begin an international pen pals relationship, say the following: "I have no idea what to write about myself. I think I will dedicate my first letter to describing my native city."
Dear ladies! He is only interested in your city because you live in it. There is no need to overload your first letter with the descriptions of the suburban scenery, with the fact that your local truck producer is the biggest in the area - it will not make him think about you more. You need your man to think about you and not the cars when he reads your letter, so write more about yourself, about the mood you had when you woke up today, what you were thinking of when you were walking towards your office, what made your state of mind change, what plans you have for the weekend, what conclusions you made when talking to a girlfriend over a cup of tea - just anything you can think of!
You can even resort to childhood stories. The letter has to be about you, how you love life, how you are delighted with everything you see, how happy the pen pals relationship with him makes you, and only then you can write how you like your city, how you celebrate the traditional holidays with your family, whet the weather is like outside and how it makes you feel.
I think you have got the main idea. So what to include in your first letter? Just write how glad you are that he chose you from hundreds of foreign brides on the marriage agency's site. If you want to flirt a little, ask him why he was attracted by you - the man would be happy to explain his choice (if he had not done it yet, of course). Remember that men like to prove their points of view and defend them.
Write that his letter or photo was a great surprise for you and how it made your mood go up. Maybe you even felt in the morning that something good was going to happen? Create a positive mood from the very beginning of your letter. Do not make your first letter look like a simple questionnaire made up of bare facts. Remember that all the facts were already included in your agency profile and he had probably read this time and again.
Begin your story about yourself with some bright (funny, memorable, lyrical) event from your life, with some memories or simply with what happened to you today in the morning. Do not stick to writing out carefully the years when you went to college or entered yet another place of work. It is not a curriculum vitae, it is a letter to your future partner. You had better tell him why you were attracted to your career or studies, how it is connected to your personality and what you like about it.
While writing the letter, ask questions about the very things that you write. Let your questions make it impossible to give a one-word answer to them, provoking him to tell you more about himself, to share his memories, plans and projects. Your goal is to make him interested, so remember that you need to answer all the letters as soon as possible, not when the man had already forgotten what he wanted. Answer his first letter the day when you got it. He would be very impressed by your quick reaction. For him, it would mean that you are as interested in this relationship as he is. In the end of the letter, always offer him topics for discussion in the next letter. It would serve as a stimulus for him to reply and also show that your range of interests and the will to continue the pen pal relationship are not limited to what you have written in your first letter.
So you think it is hard? No one said it was going to be easy! Writing letters is a job, an active job that makes you think and feel - you work at building up your relationship. Its success will largely depend on the correspondence you write and receive.
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