If you want to start long distance relationships, should you reply to everyone or maybe refuse some people at once?
Is it difficult to start long distance relationships with a foreigner? What essential things should one know to dare to do it? When you have uploaded a splendid photo to the site and published your personal ad, you start getting letters. If you followed professional match makers' advice and did your best, no wonder that you will receive a bunch of letters. However, be ready to get them not only from the people you want to write you. It is not always easy to understand, if this or that person can be regarded as your future partner. To make it clear, who is the right person to start long distance relationships with, you will have to answer nearly all the letters you get.
Why "nearly"? If you suppose that the person the letter is written by is a weirdo, a little bit strange or even crazy, you should better ignore this letter, of course. And the other letters must be replied.
If you can see that you deal with a kind-hearted, pretty and trustworthy person, still, for some or other reason, he or she does not suit you, then you must write a polite refusal. As far as the reason for refusal is concerned, you can try to say something to your pan pals that will let them understand that they don't suit you. You can say, for instance, that you don't like smoker, or, that the disparity in years is too large for you. You can also say that you would like to meet somebody else, because you are not ready to date a person with children.
What do you need all that for? First, you should be polite. Second, it will help you to analyze the author of the letters. You may turn out to be mistaken! And what if the person you are looking for is too shy to tell you about his or her intentions to find a match? So don't jump at a conclusion to just give up writing, otherwise you will hardly be able to find it out! Think, maybe you match is one of your pen pals...
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